#323 - 07/21/10 05:04 PM
Am I alone here?
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frustratedisme
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Sorry but my first post here and I'm very very frustrated! First off my daughter had a case against her for not taking her baby to get her eye stitched when she took a nasty fall and banged a table. Now, she gets into a fight with her boyfriend, they fight with the other roomates, her boyfriend kicks the door in, they get stuff and leave with the baby. Cops show up...assess the scene then find a very small amount of cocaine on the table. Well, later it was noticed there was bruised handprint on the baby! The person who got the case looks it over, takes us to another place to see a physican...meantime my daughter bails and ditches this worker like a hot potato! Now instead of getting to the bottom of it and letting my daughter go without questioning her they are now going to close her case just because the baby is with me and safe now and they can't seem to catch up with my daughter. I gave them the ammo they needed and narrowed it down to her being the biggest possibility (no handprint when this person sees them, but there 20 minutes later and she was the only one around the baby). So they even had a witness stating they saw no handprint, then the very next person saw one...so it can only be one person...my daughter! Now when they close the case or even if it was open they cannot stop my daughter from taking the baby right back in the same spot she was just in! Has anyone ever encountered this???? I would really like to know I'm not alone in this!!!
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#334 - 07/26/10 11:13 PM
Re: Am I alone here?
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serenity
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Hi frustrated- I am so sorry this is happening to your family, and no, unfortunately, you are not alone in it. I know with the local CPS agency where I live, they had a huge loss for the last fiscal year--they hit read about halfway through the year, so the last six months they were running a deficit. This resulted in hundreds of kids being returned to families they should not have been, or not being taken from abusive parents, simply because the county could not afford to put them in foster homes and provide services for the families.
I am in a very similar situation with my 4 god-children; when their mom has no food, clothes, formula, and they are living in a car, she calls me and I come get the kids (of course!)..however, when I then call CPS about the state the kids were in, they say "well, do they have food right now? do they have a place to sleep tonight?" And, of course they do, because they are with me-so CPS is not concerned. But, I have no rights to the kids, so when their mom wants them back (coincidently, at the same time when she needs to take them to the Welfare office to get her next check) I have to take them back..and if I call CPS then, well, they can't do anything until the kids AGAIN are starving. It is so frustrating, and so unfair to the child. I'd just encourage you to keep doing what you can for your granddaughter..you may not be able to protect her tomorrow, but you can today, so that's what you need to focus on.
She is lucky to have someone like you in her corner!
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#335 - 08/01/10 09:16 PM
Re: Am I alone here?
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With your innocent granddaughter’s safety threatened, it's normal to feel angry and frustrated at the way the social worker and the police handled the situation. Another way to look at this situation is that you have done what matters the most which is to protect and take care of your granddaughter. Does your Child Protective Service Agency know whether your daughter is a minor? Have they told you who is now responsible for the care of the baby?
You also said you felt that a satisfactory explanation was not given as to why the case was closed. Asking the social worker for clarification on this as well as about what your responsibilities are if the baby is under your care may help alleviate some of the confusion. The baby currently depends on none other than you to keep her safe from anyone who might be dangerous to the child. You are not alone, however. If needed, you might look to other dependable family members, friends or even to a social worker for assistance if you need help taking care of the baby. Although it may seem difficult right now, the baby is fortunate to have a grandparent like you who can care for her until your daughter is in a condition to safely raise the child herself. You might also attend a parenting support group or use one of the facilitated on-line support groups that we provide at Yes ICAN. Take care of yourself, and please let us know if we can be of further assistance.
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